Relationship Mode
Once you're committed, nuttr flips. The cost-per-nut math fades into the background and a coaching companion takes over — built around science, chart a trajectory chart that shows where the relationship is actually heading, and helps you be a better partner.
Same app. A completely different lens for the relationship you've decided is worth the work.
Activated per-person. Switches off automatically on breakup.
Relationship
In relationship modeSara · Relationship Mode
One question. Once a week.
Drawn from Gottman's Love Maps and Sound Relationship House — the same frameworks therapists use. The point isn't the answer; it's noticing the trend over weeks.
Catch the patterns Gottman links to breakup.
Every two weeks, four checkboxes. Gottman's research found these four behaviours predict relationship breakdown more reliably than almost anything else. Spotting them early is half the work.
Four Horsemen
Anything you noticed in the last 14 days?
Bids for connection
Every day she makes small requests for your attention — a comment, a question, a touch. These are bids. Turning toward them, even briefly, builds connection. Turning away — looking at your phone, brushing it off — quietly erodes it. The everyday moments matter more than the big ones.
A pocket vocabulary for the relationship.
A small library of plain-language Gottman concepts. One card at a time, no fluff — bids, repair attempts, the 5:1 ratio. Read one a week, build the vocabulary you need to navigate the relationship.
Where it's actually heading.
Your compatibility and decision-readiness, plotted over time. The line tells you what the day-to-day can't: whether the curve is rising, flat, or quietly declining.